I admit I am a horrible gift giver. But anyone can change just like a raging alcoholic can change. So this post is dedicated to help you begin making people happy with genuine gifts. As you do you will rejuvenate relationships by being the best friend, the best boyfriend or girlfriend, the coolest uncle or aunt, the favorite child, the nicest sibling, the preferred parent (not that it’s a competition), and the best spouse ever.
A Brief History of Indians Givers
You know what I hate? Indian Givers… No, wait. I take that back. Today we use the phrase Indian giver in a negative way as someone who wants their gift back. Partly true, historically Indians sold their land to the newly forming US for so cheap it appeared as if they didn’t care about the land. Unfortunately, they were just ignorant. During that time Indians hadn’t had experience in selling land and without knowing it they made a rookie mistake. So they quickly wanted their land back. So that’s how they got the bad reputation. The point I’m trying to make people is that Indians are bad examples of gift givers. Don’t let your bad gift giving skills destroy the reputation of a whole culture.
A COUPLE DO NOT DOES WITH GIFT GIVING
In 2006, CBS researchers explained the science behind bad gift giving by surveying couples who had been dating for more than six months, asking them individually to select bedroom furniture they thought would appeal to their partner. The researchers found that people tended to ignore cues about what their partner may like but bought what suits their preferences and tastes instead. After the study all the couples broke up. A word of advise. Don’t tell a person you want their gift. That is a big, no, no. You will quickly find the meaning of the gift is in vain and insisting multiple times will often never work. So just take it from me and don’t covet the gift you give.
Giving a gift is better than no gift at all but don’t give a gift if you don’t mean it. Gifts are meant to show kindness and and if you’re half hearted people notice that see right through your half hearted gift.
Don’t be worried. Giving a gift doesn’t mean you love someone. It just means it is an act of love. An act of love is all human manifestations, including money, food, clothing, expertise, information, help, care, medical care, spiritual care or any other form of that nature. Things do not show you love someone, so don’t get confused that your gift is actual love.
Accept all gifts no matter what. You don’t know if the other person put their heart into the gift. In a way, accepting gifts means accepting love and rejecting gifts means rejecting love. If you don’t love the other person rejecting the gift will surly get them off your back
The Best Gifts Are…
-Your Time. And I don’t mean just your time but your active and conscious presence. You have to “be there” and not secretly wishing you were fishing or on the golf course.
-Your Creativity. Any idiot can buy a gift certificate. Or, if you have money any jerk can buy an expensive piece of jewelry. It takes imagination and creativity to give a gift that will bring tears of joy to a face and a smile in a heart.
-Surprises. If I were married I think I would be the ultimate surprise romantic. Okay, maybe I will just have to wait and see on that one. Honestly though I am a spontaneous person. I would wake up super early before my wife with a spool of yarn going around the inside of the house, going under furniture, attaching clues and hints along the way until it leads to a surprise gift. In the mean time I would be making the best breakfast to wake her up to follow the yarn and clues to find the surprise. Man, I can’t wait.
-Something From The Past. Something that has was special from the past and recreating it as a gift is a great idea. A documentation of something did together, a funny photo, a good memory, a special place, a vacation, or anything that helps remember something good from the past is great.
-A Sense Of Humor. If you can use your sense of humor and make Birthday cake come out of someones nose, it could be considered the best Birthday ever. Giving humorous gifts gets bonus points. (These are my favorite gifts by far. Hint, hint, nudge, nudge.) In conclusion, you might not give the perfect gift to that special person every time but every time show them that you care for them and they will at least appreciate your act of love.
I seriously would love this.
This would be the perfect gift
1 response so far ↓
lego // November 1, 2009 at 9:08 pm |
You make it sound easy to accept gifts but what if it is your family that gives you a gift that you do not like? And furthermore, it would be extremely noticeable if you got rid of it? Trust me, I’m in a huge dilemma here…I feel so riddled with guilt at the moment. I don’t want to reject it but at the same time, I can’t enjoy it. And worst of all, it’s my fault that I was given it.